This group of posts are meant as inspiration and motivation for you to work on making your values and goals achievable. Sometimes we want something for ourselves, but we set the bar so high that we strive all our lives and never seem to be able to reach our goals. I don’t want to spend my life striving for something that I may reach when Im 80 when I can change the wording and enjoy reaching it everyday. I’ll tell you how.
Having honesty and trust ranking this high on my values list is only possible because I have made an enormous effort the past few years in telling the truth (even when it’s uncomfortable) and in daring to trust other people much more than I used to. Going through life is a journey filled with expectations, hopes and pursuit for happiness and love. However, this road I have taken sometimes takes unexpected turns and reveals to me that even with the deepest hope or the highest expectations I am not in control. I have even learned that control is not the point, either.
My mother always said to me that with the level of expectation I have to myself and my own abilities to create whatever I want, I am bound to get disappointed sometimes. Expecting much of myself inevitably means that I expect the same from others and demand a great deal from the world around me. Learning to let go through yoga and meditation practises have started a change in me. One of the main learning points in teaching yoga to kids is letting go of expectations, trusting that yoga will do it’s magic for the kids either way. Things don’t have to go according to my plan and everything is perfect just the way it is.
I have learned to trust that whatever happens happens because I need to learn something from it. Good or bad. Often, I learn more when whatever it is that happens makes me realise how much I am disgusted about something or hurt because of something. This learning experience has made me so much stronger and one of the things it has made me realise is that most people, myself included, tell little innocent lies all the time. And it has made me realise how much I hate doing that. I feel like I am cheating myself and the other person equally when I do that – I feel disconnected. Hence, ever since I realised this, I have been actively working on eliminating even the smallest of lies in order to fine-tune my honesty and trustworthiness.
I live my value Honesty and Trust whenever I am honest to myself, whenever I show other people that they can trust me, whenever I speak my mind and whenever I give a compliment to someone because I truly mean it.
Mahatma Ghandi said: ‘Be the change you want to see in the world’. I am trying my best.
Honesty and Trust comes from within. If I am able to be honest to myself and trust myself I will end up surrounded by honest people whom I can trust. It is the law of attraction, isn’t it? Smile seeks smile. Love seeks love.
On a final note, being honest doesn’t necessarily mean that you need to say everything that is on your mind. Sometimes silence is better. I like to combine my attempt to be completely honest with one of my favorite quotes:
‘Si lo que was a decir no es mas guapo que el silencio, no lo digas’
(If what you are about to say is not prettier than silence, don’t say it)
Sometimes it is better to just rest my case.