This group of posts are meant as inspiration and motivation for you to work on making your values and goals achievable. Sometimes we want something for ourselves, but we set the bar so high that we strive all our lives and never seem to be able to reach our goals. I don’t want to spend my life striving for something that I may reach when Im 80 when I can change the wording and enjoy reaching it everyday. I’ll tell you how.
It is interesting how long it has taken me to sit down and write the last of these 10 blog posts. I have noticed this tendency in my life a number of times before. When I need to do something that means a lot to me – it doesn’t have to be anything big – it takes me forever to get my act together and do it. It can be an important phone call or an email, booking a ticket to a place I am dying to go to or contacting my most favored business partner or customer. The longer I wait, the more tension I build around whatever it is I need to do and it keeps getting harder and harder to get started.
So, here I am, more than two months after my last value-post writing about my most treasured value – Health and Peace of Mind.
What happened was that the week I had intended to write the post, I had neglected and down prioritised my health and peace of mind. I was pushing myself to finish something – don’t remember what it was, so it probably wasn’t even important. Actually, nothing is more important than my health. Nothing. And still, I find myself choosing tasks before health, I noticed how I had ‘forgotten’ to do my yoga and meditation because I had ‘more important’ things to do.
BUT. Instead of slabbing myself in the face and yelling at myself for being mindless and caught up, I eat a healthy meal or stretch my body. I do something that makes me feel good. I meditate and acknowledge how it makes me feel. How it makes my brain calm down, my body calm down, my mind calm down.
Being healthy and valuing health and peace of mind does not mean that I need to reach a certain body fat index or that I cannot react and show my emotions. I can do something very simple in this very moment that makes me live up to my value. The more I do it, the better I feel about myself because I keep being reminded that I can do these little things and live up to my values at the same time.
I live my value Health and Peace of Mind whenever I stretch and strengthen my body, whenever I allow my mind to rest, whenever I get fresh air and move around, whenever I eat food that is benefitting my body and whenever I fulfill my need for sleep, peace and quiet.
Sometimes living up to your values can seem difficult even though you have made a list like my own. You might be traveling and find it hard to get your sleep, eat right, exercise or whatever it might be. Last month I went to Panama and found myself eating a lot more junk than I am used to, I had difficulty sleeping some nights and I didn’t take as much time for yoga and meditation as I normally do. But then I remembered that I could celebrate the times when I DID eat something good, or when I DID my yoga, slept well, prioritised peace and quiet etc.
It flips the picture, doesn’t it. It makes it all easier and less stressful. Living up to your values does not have to be one more measurement of your performance. You can make yourself a winner everyday. And the amazing thing about this game is that there doesn’t have to be any losers.