This post is inspired by my readings of Anthony Robbins’ book Awaken The Giant Within.
What do you think the difference is between people who always seem down and people who always seem happy and alive? Are some of us just born with it? Personally, I am blessed with the ability to ask the right questions, I think. I don’t really ask them aloud, I ask myself – inside. I never thought about it this way before, but when I read Anthony Robbins’ chapters about asking powerful questions, it dawned on me.
I think the difference is to be found in the questions we ask ourselves. When you drop something, or lose something, or miss a train or something – do you ask; why does this always happen to me? How could I be so stupid? Or do you ask; what can I learn from this? How can I make sure this doesn’t happen again? See, the interesting part here, according to Anthony Robbins, is that the brain will do everything it can to answer your question. If you ask your brain why it always happens to you, it will try to find ways to show you that it indeed always happens to you and so on so forth.
I can’t help thinking, sometimes, what would have happened if I hadn’t been able to ask the right questions when I needed it the most. When I went through a long period of post-traumatic stress after a serious concussion a few years ago, I started out asking the wrong questions, I think. Today, I can’t remember the exact questions I asked, but I remember how I managed to turn from deeply depressed to accepting and alive in a very short time. I started asking things like; how can I be happy going through this period in my life? How can I use this experience to make my life better?
I know now that it was one of the best things that have happened in my life and I would go through all of it again. It was tough at times, of course, but it has changed my perspective and made me enjoy the small things in life more.
Next time you’re in a hassle and you start asking yourself how stupid or unlucky you are, ask yourself how you can learn from it instead. Enjoy!